6 things that I learnt from a devastating accident

I share here about my experiences from a devastating accident in which I almost lost three fingers, and what I have learned from this miracle ordeal.

Three years ago, it was late Sunday evening of January, when I met with a freak yet devastating accident. As I was working on a 12,000 RPM rotary metal cutting tool, a momentary lapse of attention and I severed my three fingers on the right hand.

This jolted my family and threw life out of gear. With three small beautiful children and a family that is dependent, an entrepreneurial journey and a whole life ahead, a useless right hand, was the last thing one would want on.

By the time I was wheeled into A&E, the situation was grave, and more than one hospital in the area refused admission as they did not have the doctor on call over that weekend. It was a weekend night and Bangalore roads were choked with heavy traffic.

The Two-Wheeler Ride To Eternity:

And clutching the tree dismembered fingers of my right hand tightly with the left. here I was with riding pillion on a two-wheeler, and my wife the ‘ambulance’ driver. The blood loss was significant as the body gushed out blood to the fingers. Here sitting in the pillion, the one thing on my mind was to keep myself awake, come what may and not become unconscious and fall off. I hugged my feet to the sides of the scooter, much like how you would on a horse and kept talking to my wife, lest i fall asleep. The
notorious city’s traffic was not helping and a good 30-40 minutes later, and what seemed like an eternity, we reach a hospital that would admit us.

What happened during that ride was nothing short of awakening and rebirth.

What happened during that ride was nothing short of awakening and rebirth. My mind was filled with both doubt and acceptance, on what-if, and how I will live with just a thumb and little finer for the rest of my life. A billion thoughts crisscrossed my mind. Would this be the end of me? Will I be accepted in this world? How will I have an opportunity to pursue my hobbies and passions for which I came back to India? How will I do as an entrepreneur? Would this end of my professional life forever?

The Surgery And The Recovery

It was an intense 4-5-hour surgery under general anaesthesia, and I remained drugged, for hours after that. I still remember the light banter in the Operation Theatre with the surgeon. He informed that he would need me to sign the consent form, as he said, “….we can save one finger, be ready to lose two of them, but definitely we will try to save the second one”. This was before the General Anaesthesia and I replied, “Doc, without those three fingers I cannot sign. How about you are fixing them and then I can have the form signed in no-time.” After a good guffaw, they got the consent form signed by my wife, who was there through out the phase not sleeping a wink.  

Cut forward to 6 weeks later – As we went for the removal of cast and stitches, my doctor was awed and euphoric – for, this recovery was beyond all his expectation. He mentioned I was ‘one big lucky man‘; While I was relieved, I knew deep within, that the hundreds of prayers and positive energy from many well-wishers and the doctor’s dedication would not go waste.

And all that was backed by rock-solid backbone by wife and children, strong support of family, prayers, blessings and encouragement of many many friends. Over the next few months – life had ‘raced back’ to normalcy – in 6-8 weeks, much earlier than the then expected 6-12 months.

I was welcomed from the hospital with a cake, and the little ones were more excited to see me, than to have a piece of that cake.

I was welcomed from the hospital with a cake, and the little ones were more excited to see me, than to have a piece of that cake.
I was welcomed from the hospital with a cake, and the little ones were more excited to see me, than to have a piece of that cake.

I have learned a lot in those few months and unlearned many more. It indeed was a rebirth. With many cobwebs in the mind removed, and the mind knows what is important in life. In retrospect, this was the best exerience in my life, yet. Couldn’t have been luckier to have this experience.

Here’s a summary of the five most important things that I’ve learned:

1.  Love And Respect:

Throughout the adventurous journey, the one thing I realised was the importance of having the love and respect of family, whom you could always depend on. My parents-in-law were all the time and my parents flew in from Dubai almost immediately on hearing this. With that confidence of the support of my family and friends, I would sail through this life. I was also fortunate to have support in form of many hundreds of telephone calls, WhatsApp enquiries from all corners of the world. Many of them dropped by for a visit. Words of encouragement, flower bouquets courier packages with holy water, ashes and prasadams (similar to holy water, in form of solid or liquid) from holy places were pouring in.

2.  Acceptance:

Within minutes of the accident, and immediately after the shock, I had mentally prepared to accept whatever cards, life throws at me. If it means, living with just thumb and the little finger, I was ready for a life the way it is dished out to me.

3.  Gratitude:

Gratitude was the most important of all the learnings. Through the process of long recuperation, I was filled with immense gratitude for all the amazing things that life had to offer. I was grateful for all that so many people have done for me. Through the countless solitary moments, I thanked thousands of people, yes thousands of people. I could vividly remember the faces of the many persons that I had encountered in life since childhood. And, I would believe that act alone was the single biggest contributor to my miracle recovery, a record of sorts.

Let alone not losing any of the fingers as the doctor had said, the recovery was much lesser than six-twelve months, I was ready and kicking and six weeks. In fact, just a day after the bandages removed and even without physiotherapy I went ahead and did what I love to do – an 800 km Road trip, more than half-which I was at the wheel.

I could vividly remember the faces of the many persons that I had encountered in life since childhood.

4.  Law Of Attraction:

If there is one important thing other than gratitude, mentioned earlier it is the law of attraction. Much I was accepting each day for what it was, I was not willing to let go of the optimist in me and the fighter in me. Each day, I would visualise miraculous healing and see the senior surgeon tell us that he was amazed at the speed of recovery.

5.  Amazing Adaptability Of Human Body:

Through my journey, I was able to be aware and observe amazing aspects of the internal workings of the human body. The experience of ‘electric shocks’ from nerve endings as they try to heal, regrow and reconnect to the nervous system, the incredible way in which my left hand took over seamlessly much like a doubles partner; to compensate for my every weakness. The reflexes had dramatically improved, to say the least. Never in my entire life, I would have experienced such a level of alertness and strong reflexes .

6.  Mindfulness, Dramatic Increase In IQ Tests

Here, I’m going to speak about something incredible that happened and is beyond imagination. This was more of an unintended consequence, serendipity if you may, for what you are about to hear is not something even I foresaw in my wildest dreams.

I am a regular player of online brain games like Lumosity. After that break of about 6 to 8 weeks, scores consistently surged way higher than any of previous high scores. Not believing this magical twist, I went and took 20 -30 different brain tests. The scores were consistently 30-70% higher than my earlier high scores. On further research, I learnt that sudden use of left-hand for the considerable amount of time helped activate the other half of the brain.

Today, I am so grateful to people around me, my life, and the universe. When I play badminton, play with children, pick up those weights in the gym, or do that 10,000 km road trip – and all of them are still a bit of effort, none-the-less – not a day passes without feeling how lucky life has been.

Aspire to be a CEO: Have Fun, Laugh!

Business is tough and may is not joy ride. That should not stop you from emanating joy and having fun along the way.
As a manager, you are expected to to keep the team focussed towards the goal. You are supposed to to lead them through the journey. You can make the journey hard, grumpy and tiring. Or you have a choice to make the joy, fun and lively.
It is a common knowledge that people who enjoy their work can be more creative, more enthusiastic and more productive. Conversely, an environment that is constantly serious and matter-of-fact is stressful and inefficient.
The manager who is able to maintain a sense of humour, lightens the mental load will always have a motivated happy team. A motivated less stressed team is a more productive team. They achieve things faster, better and bigger.
Sense of humour is mark of intelligence and quality sought out for corporate presidents. If you see it as a rare quality – all the more reason you have a better change of being one if you possess one.
Make  fun@work a reality.

Landing a dream job, not any job: Don’t send your CV (résumé)

For purposes of this series, we will be using résumé[1] and curriculum vitae[2] (CV), interchangeably.

A CV with a ‘for everyone’ cover letter = junk mail
A CV without a cover letter = waste paper.
 Imagine the fate of hundreds of direct mailers that you pick from the mailbox. Do they ever get into your door? In all probability, they would have hit the trash somewhere between the mailboxes to the door. In Singapore, where I live, they have a trashcan next to the mailboxes in most apartments and that makes thrash-ing a bit easier.
Most – 99.2% – of the CVs go straight from Inbox to Trash. Now a days, I hear that some companies have developed some amazing software code that helps them generate a nice sounding rejection letter before moving to trash. Most of the CVs however are ignored.
To elucidate this, imagine this – how do you react when a salesperson knocks at your door without an appointment? Would you have ever bought a dime of insurance policy from someone who just barged into your office or home without an appointment? Cold calling, as they are called have very extremely low success rates. The customer may just not need for the product, they may be too busy to talk, or better still, they may just be watching their favorite soccer match for the 11th time.
You are the product and your CV is your brochure. Super sales people never send a brochure before meeting with a prospective customer. They know that sales brochures (in some cases, I have seen twenty-page proposals) sent prior to needs analysis is irrelevant, off target and often unread.
Super sales people send brochure after the first meeting or bring it with them on follow-up calls. If the brochure is not completely customized to the customer’s needs, the sales person highlights the product benefits that will have the highest chance of solving the customer’s problems.
Super sales people create interest in their products and use the brochures to re-affirm and to leave a lasting impression of the product or the meeting.
Why are we saying all this – You may just follow what super sales people do and make your CV behave like a Velcro. That happens only after customer reads it after talking to you, hearing about you, or meeting you. This is particularly true if you have interviewed or spoken to the hiring manager. Your CV will be able to deliver to the ‘needs’
Turn junk mail into a money mail. Do not send a CV without proper preparation. If possible, deliver your CV in person. Present your CV. Follow-up with your CV that meets the needs.
Best-of-luck!


[1] Wikipedia defines CV thus – A curriculum vitae (CV) provides an overview of a person’s life and qualifications. The CV is typically the first item that a potential employer encounters regarding the job seeker and is typically used to screen applicants, often followed by an interview, when seeking employment.
[2] Wikipedia defines a resume thus: A résumé (French pronunciation: [ʁezyme]) is a document that contains a summary of relevant job experience and education for specific employment search. The résumé is typically the first item that a potential employer encounters regarding the job seeker and is typically used to screen applicants, often followed by an interview, when seeking employment. The résumé is comparable to a curriculum vitae in many countries, although in Canada and United States it is substantially different.

Aspire 2 Be: A preamble!

Aspire 2 Be: A preamble!
Why did we choose this topic?
All of us aspire to be someone or do something. During our lifetime we either we surrender our aspirations or get annoyed that we are reaching nowhere. Life gets frustrating and we end up blaming the world, the surroundings, and the people.
Aspire2Be is designed to give you back control of your life and career – I repeat – help YOU take control of YOUR life and career.
There are zillion self-help books and that will sure continue to sell. They all fairly good fix-it solutions and they too may work. The authors here will share their thoughts and experiences of over dozens of years of experience in their professional careers – to help you dream, ponder and act – in a way and method that you will be best suited to you.

Aspiration –
You either have it or you don’t. If you want to do something or become something life.Just do these three things – dream-ponder-act – The success is yours for keeps.